Monday, June 2, 2008

How to Talk Dirty to Your Man

Looking to shake things up in the bedroom? Let's be honest, if you're lucky enough to have a great guy, you're going to want to make him happy. It's only natural! Sure, there are, ahem, physical ways to do this, but what about stirring him into a crazed frenzy without even touching him? That's power!

It's all in the power of the tongue, actually. Stay with me here! I'm talking about turning your man on with just one or two words. You might be thinking that men aren't as responsive to verbal stimulus as women. Wrong! Think about the phone sex industry. Yeah, they've been around this long for a's big business! Most of the callers are men, so you can safely deduce that men LOVE to hear steamy words falling from your lips.

Okay, so we know that men enjoy hearing dirty talk. How do you go about trying it out without blushing madly or embarrassing yourself. I'd have to say the best place to start would be a book I just read. It's called The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty, and it does a pretty good job of taking you by the hand and explaining the intricacies of talking dirty.

Yes, there is more to talking dirty to your man than just blurting out whatever naughty thought that comes to your mind. How would you respond if your man just said whatever dirty thing was on his mind...just whenever? It probably wouldn't have the desired effect on you, and men really aren't any different. There's a such thing as trying too hard, ladies!

As you can probably imagine, there are definitely things you shouldn't say. This is a simple enough concept to understand, but you'll be surprised to find out what some of those things are!

I especially liked the section on confidence boosting in the bedroom, because I think this is a problem that many women have experienced at some point in their relationships. I also liked the fact that the author really stressed having FUN. It's not about competing with porn stars, it's about enjoying your significant other and having fun!

As much as I love that this guide is tailored for the ladies, it's not all roses. My biggest pet peeve is that I feel male input was minimal. I would have loved, loved, loved it if this book was a male-female DUO. At the very least, a small section in each chapter with a male's opinion. Ah, well, based on how men and women are raving about it, perhaps I don't know squat:)

The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty isn't a "Dirty Girl 101" textbook, but it will show you how to add some sizzle in your relationship and have your man hanging on your every word. Here's how it stacks up:

Overall: 8.4 (out of 10)
Price: 8.5 (out of 10)
Usefulness: 9 (out of 10)
Free books included?: Yep!
Were they any good?: Hmm...they were free, so, yep!
Final word: All in all, this book is a good buy for couples who want to invest in their relationship...and have some naughty fun in the process.